Valentine's Day

Since Valentine’s day is this weekend, I thought I would talk a little about building strong marriages. The first step is to understand that there is no one way to grow and improve our marriages. We can turn to many resources, but the most important thing to remember is the desire to love one another in and through all things. Secondly, it takes a daily commitment to listen and hear how we can better support, love, and encourage one another. 


This Valentine’s day, to help us grow in these two areas, I want to encourage you to go on a date, yes, a date, but a date with a purpose. The purpose is to reconnect, listen, learn, and dream about what tomorrow might hold. Get dress upped, go somewhere special (it doesn’t have to be expensive), and spend time asking one another the following questions.  

What is one thing I did that made you feel loved this week?

What is one thing you need from me to help you know that you are loved?

What do you envision our life looking like in 10 years?

If we had unlimited funds for one vacation, where would we go?

What is one odd thing about me that you find endearing?

What is your favorite memory from the beginning of our relationship?

Is there anything I need to know today that will help me be more supportive of you tomorrow?

In the midst of these questions, if you find growth areas, that is ok.  We all have room to grow and to mature in our relationships. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, just one that is willing to pursue growth. If you find an area that needs some attention, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us at We can help you with resources for growth. We have a wonderful group of mentoring couples we can connect you with to help you grow in your relationship. These couples would love to support you in strengthening your marriage. We also have a great network of counselors to refer to you if you need a little more detailed attention.  

 In concluding, I wanted to refer you to two websites that have beneficial articles on nurturing and growing in your marriage.  The first is and the second is Take some time to review the articles that might interest you and help you experience growth in your marriage. Please don’t forget that the most important step is to be willing to love one another in and through it all.  

In the Grip of His Grace,

Dr. Rusty Sieck